How old were you when you first had sexual intercourse?
Well, that’s an awkward question. And it’s one that I don’t have an answer for. Because I can’t see the future.
Kids, I’ve never even really kissed a girl. Sex has never even been on the table. Or anywhere else for that matter. (Cue the audience laughter)
Look, I’m pretty much okay with the fact that I can still be labeled a virgin. Call it a puritanical attitude if you want, but I grew up in church where I was taught that sex is the kind of thing that’s best saved for marriage. And since I’m not married…
If I were to find myself in a relationship with a woman I loved and we just weren’t at the stage where we were ready to get married, I’m sure the temptation would be there to have the sex. And I honestly can’t say whether I would or would not give in. I mean, from what I’m given to understand, it seems like a pretty swell time. I just can’t speak from experience.
I’m not ashamed of the fact that I’m 38 years old and have never had sex. It’s really okay. Waiting until I’m married was one of those things I made a decision about when I was a teenager. On the one hand, I don’t know what I’m missing. I mean, I do… But since I’ve never experienced the physical act itself, it’s not like I can say I did it once and loved it and now I can’t wait to do it again. It’s not something that’s on my mind. And when a reminder of the status of my virginity comes along (like this question), I just think, “meh…”
Now, if I were a gambling man, I’d wager than in a little over a year, I’ll be starring in my own personal version of The 40-Year-Old Virgin. Mine probably won’t be as funny as the Steve Carrell movie.
This is the part where I usually invite you to answer the question in the comments. But it really won’t hurt my feelings if no one responds this week. Because, as I said a the top, this is an awkward question. That’s not to say I’ll turn away your answers if you give them. Just… you know… keep it clean.
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.