If you knew it would completely estrange you from your friends and family, would you follow your heart and marry a person you loved?
I mean… if friends and family are rightly warning me that the person I love is also secretly a super-villain bent on global destruction and/or domination, I would hope I would listen to their wise council before plunging headfirst into marriage with this woman. But I like to think I’m a pretty good judge of character, so I’m fairly certain I’d be able to figure all of that out.
Although, I have known people who were warned about their toxic partners prior to saying those vows and they wouldn’t listen. Blinded by their emotions.
I think that’s why it’s so important to remember that love is more than emotion. Feelings are fickle and constantly change. If married people rely solely on what they feel for each other, then the divorce rate would be way higher than 50%. As it is, a lot of that 50% probably rely on their feelings to determine whether or not to remain married. Anyway, if I were to ever get married, it would be a decision based on more than just how I feel about this woman.
And if my friends and family don’t like it, I’m sure they have reasons. And if they can calmly and logically explain their position to me, I will listen. But I will ultimately do what I think is right, even if that means the loss of some of those relationships.
But what about you? Would you alienate your family and friends in the name of love? Let me know down in the comments!
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.