Question of the Week #176

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say?

Heck yes, I do.

And not just for telephone calls. I rehearse what I’m going to say when I’m fairly certain the chances of having any kind of conversation with a human being is about to occur. How else will I remember to say all the clever things I need to say? I even try to come up with several possible one-liner scenarios for specific instances that may come up. That way I’ll look like I’m witty and quick on my feet.

Okay, that last part isn’t 100% true. I don’t plan out potential outcomes with possible one-liners. I really am just that witty and quick on my feet.

But it is true that I have been known to rehearse what I want to say to people, whether it be on the phone or in person. I don’t think I’m alone in this. It was kind of a relief to find out that Riley Finn, from Buffy the Vampire Slayer, sometimes practiced his conversations prior to actually talking to Buffy in the episode “Something Blue.”

For him, it was mostly about being nervous when talking to Buffy, an intimidating, pretty girl. For me, it’s mostly about doubting my abilities to form coherent sentences when participating in pretty much any conversation and feeling like an idiot when my social awkwardness kicks in and I can’t carry my side of the dialogue.

What about you? Do you practice what you’re going to say on the phone or in other situations? Let me know in the comments!

*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.

2 thoughts on “Question of the Week #176

  1. I hardly ever really talk on the phone anymore. It’s sad but it’s true. But I do practice if I have to make an appointment or something. I hate making those phone calls. But I think everyone naturally goes over what they are going to say while the phone is ringing – don’t they? Maybe not to the degree that the question was asking for, but even if I’m calling my boss to tell her that we need pasta sauce I kind of go over that in my head as I wait for her to pick up.

    I’m really bad for getting input for my text messages, though. My best friend is my sounding board, and I have (on more than one occasion) written a text in my “notes” app, copied and pasted it to her via text message, and waited for her reply before sending it to the intended person. Or I use my brother if I have an important email where I’m upset and/or emotional and I don’t want it to come across that way.

    But if I didn’t have that technology and had to have those conversations in person or on the phone, I would still rehearse them or get the same input before having the conversation haha. (and now I’m going to re-read all of this just to make sure it’s what I wanted to say…)

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  2. Yes. All the time. In my old job when I used to have to call clients or other people, I’d write down what I needed to say on a pad of paper and look at it while I called. And it was good to use to write notes. But I’m extremely awkward on the phone, so in writing things down, I hope that it helps stop that. (But not really.) If I have to call the doctors, I’ll rehearse what I have to say but in that case I normally don’t write it down beforehand.

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