If you were happily married, and then met someone you felt was certain to always bring you deeply passionate, intoxicating love, would you leave your spouse? What if you had kids?
Whether I had kids or not, the answer is absolutely no. If I’m married, it means I already met the one person whom I felt was certain to always bring me deeply passionate, intoxicating love. Actually, no… to believe that is moronic. That kind of love is fleeting. It’s temporary. And anyone who tells you different is spouting romantic nonsense who doesn’t really understand the difference between love and infatuation.
If people would stop buying into the whole “the heart wants what the heart wants” mentality, we would probably find ourselves with a less than 52% divorce rate in this country. We have got to stop allowing our emotions to dictate our actions when it comes to our commitment to the people we supposedly love. If you aren’t the kind of person who can say, “I do,” and mean it with every fiber of your being without the need to stray a few years later because you’ve become bored with your spouse, then don’t get married!
Normally, this is the part where I pose the Question of the Week to you, the reader. But I don’t want to know the answer unless you’re gonna say no. Because if you say yes, I’m gonna judge you. Hard. Deal with it.
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.