This is a day late, folks. Sorry about that. Not sure that I have an excuse other than I got busy yesterday and then when I finished with all I had to do, got lazy. But there are no rules here. If you have a problem with getting this week’s question on a Sunday, rather than a Saturday, we can take it into the Thunderdome. That is the new law.
Would you like your spouse to be both smarter and more attractive than you?
Absolutely. 100% yes. I want to marry up. In fact, I want my future wife to be so far out of my league that people will look at the two of us and think, “Man, how did a guy like that end up with a girl like her?” During the fifth season of How I Met Your Mother, there was an episode titled “Jenkins.” In this episode, it’s theorized that in every relationship there is a reacher and a settler. The reacher is obviously the person in the relationship who is lower on the scale of intelligence, attractiveness, whatever the case may be. The settler is one who is aware that they’re smarter or more attractive than their partner and is willing to settle, comfortable in the knowledge that he or she is better than the other.
Though, now that I think about it, I may have to reconsider the part about her being smarter than me. I mean, I’m just not sure I can handle being beaten at Jeopardy! night after night. But I don’t want her to not win all the time. Okay, I’ve got it. She is of roughly equal intelligence, but definitely prettier than me. Which, let’s be honest, most women are.
What about you? Are you a reacher or a settler?
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.