How would you react if you were to learn that your mate had had a lover of the same sex before you knew each other?
My honest, initial reaction would probably be one of shock. But really I don’t think it would have any more effect on how I felt about her than if I were to find out she has slept with another guy before we got together. The way I see it, it’s in the past. What my hypothetical wife and I have now is the present and future. If I’m going to have that unconditional love for her that I’m expecting to have, then that means loving her no matter what’s happened in the past.
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.