Question of the Week #419

Hey there, dear readers! Welcome back to our weekly existential crisis… I mean, our Question of the Week series. Today, we’re diving into the deep end of the pool with a question that’s about as light and fluffy as a lead balloon: Have you ever seriously considered suicide? If so, why?

Now, before we plunge into this heavy topic, let’s take a collective deep breath. Remember, if you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide, you’re not alone, and help is available. The Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is just a phone call or text away at 988. No judgment, just support.

Personal Reflections

Let’s kick things off with a bit of personal sharing, shall we? In the spirit of full disclosure, I’ve never seriously considered suicide as an option in my life. But hey, don’t go thinking I’m some kind of perpetually chipper, walking ray of sunshine. I’ve had my fair share of dark days where the thought fleetingly crossed my mind that not being around anymore might make things easier.

You know those moments when you’re stuck in traffic, your coffee spills on your white shirt, and your boss texts you about that report you forgot? Yeah, in those moments, the idea of magically vanishing from existence can seem oddly appealing. But here’s the kicker – it’s usually just a fleeting thought, not a serious consideration.

The truth is, when I take a step back and really ponder life’s grand tapestry, I realize there are so many things worth sticking around for. The smell of freshly brewed coffee in the morning, the way your dog looks at you like you’re the best thing since sliced bread, or that feeling when you finally nail the harmony in your favorite karaoke song. Life’s full of these little gems that make the journey worthwhile.

But let’s be real for a second. I’m not saying it’s as simple as “think happy thoughts and poof! All better!” Moving past dark thoughts can be a Herculean task, especially when you’re in the thick of it. It’s like trying to see the entire forest when you’re surrounded by trees – not exactly a walk in the park.

The Bigger Picture

Now that I’ve bared my soul (you’re welcome), let’s zoom out and look at the bigger picture. Suicide is a complex issue that affects people from all walks of life. It doesn’t discriminate based on age, gender, socioeconomic status, or how many Instagram followers you have.

According to the World Health Organization, more than 700,000 people die by suicide every year. That’s roughly one person every 40 seconds. It’s a staggering number that underscores the importance of open discussions about mental health and suicide prevention.

But why do people consider suicide? Well, buckle up, because we’re about to take a whirlwind tour through some heavy stuff.

Mental Health: The Invisible Battle

Often, suicidal thoughts are linked to mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or PTSD. These conditions can make life feel like you’re constantly swimming upstream in a river of molasses while wearing lead boots. Not exactly a day at the beach.

Depression, in particular, can be a sneaky little devil. It’s not always about feeling sad. Sometimes it’s feeling nothing at all, like you’re watching life through a foggy window. And when that fog doesn’t lift, the idea of escape can start to look mighty tempting.

Societal Pressures: The Weight of the World

We live in a world that’s constantly bombarding us with messages about what we should be, do, and achieve. Get good grades, land a high-paying job, find the perfect partner, buy a house, have 2.5 kids and a golden retriever – oh, and don’t forget to look fabulous and cultivate a thriving social media presence while you’re at it!

It’s enough to make anyone want to crawl under the covers and never come out. When people feel like they’re not measuring up to these often unrealistic standards, it can lead to feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.

Life Changes and Loss: When the Rug Gets Pulled Out

Major life changes or losses can also trigger suicidal thoughts. Losing a job, going through a divorce, or experiencing the death of a loved one can shake a person’s world to its core. It’s like suddenly finding yourself in a foreign country where you don’t speak the language and your GPS is on the fritz.

Chronic Pain and Illness: When the Body Betrays

For some folks, it’s not the mind but the body that leads them to consider suicide. Living with chronic pain or a debilitating illness can wear a person down over time. When every day is a struggle just to exist, the idea of ending that struggle can become increasingly appealing.

Trauma and Abuse: The Scars You Can’t See

Past trauma or ongoing abuse can also contribute to suicidal thoughts. These experiences can leave deep emotional scars that may not be visible to others but are acutely felt by the person carrying them.

Coping Mechanisms: Tools for the Toolbox

Now, before we all spiral into an existential funk, let’s talk about some ways to combat these dark thoughts. Because contrary to what your brain might be telling you in those low moments, there are ways to cope and find hope.

  1. Reach Out: I know, I know, it’s cliché. But seriously, talking to someone – a friend, family member, therapist, or even a stranger on a helpline – can make a world of difference. Sometimes just voicing your thoughts out loud can help you see them from a new perspective.
  2. Practice Mindfulness: Fancy word for “living in the moment.” It’s about focusing on the here and now instead of getting lost in the labyrinth of your thoughts. Maybe try meditation, or if that’s not your cup of tea, even something as simple as focusing on your breath for a few minutes can help.
  3. Exercise: I can almost hear the collective groan, but bear with me. Exercise releases endorphins, nature’s own happy pills. You don’t have to run a marathon – even a short walk can help clear your head.
  4. Create Something: Art, music, writing, interpretive dance – whatever floats your boat. Creating allows you to express feelings that might be hard to put into words.
  5. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Seriously. Treat yourself like you would a good friend. You wouldn’t berate a friend for feeling down, so why do it to yourself?
  6. Seek Professional Help: Sometimes, we need a little extra support. There’s absolutely no shame in seeing a therapist or counselor. They’re like personal trainers for your mind.
  7. Develop a Safety Plan: If you’re prone to suicidal thoughts, having a plan in place for when those thoughts hit can be a lifesaver (literally). This might include people to call, places to go, or activities that help ground you.

A Message of Hope

If you’re reading this and you’re in a dark place, I want you to know something: Your story isn’t over yet. You’re the protagonist in your own epic tale, and right now, you might be in the challenging second act where everything seems bleak. But remember, the hero always faces their darkest moments before the dawn.

You matter. Your life has value. And the world is a richer place with you in it.

Life can be tough, no doubt about it. But it can also be beautiful, surprising, and filled with moments of joy that you can’t even imagine right now. Hang in there. Reach out for help if you need it. And remember, as the great philosopher Dory once said, “Just keep swimming.”


If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out for help. The Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 at 988. You can call or text this number for support.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey we call life. Take care of yourselves, and I’ll see you next week for another deep dive into the human psyche. Until then, be kind to yourself and others. Peace out!

One thought on “Question of the Week #419

  1. I’ve never had any suicidal ideation before but I have self harmed im the past. I’m lucky enough to have gone through the bad phases and not had to cope with suicidal thoughts and the trauma that comes with it. I don’t know how people feel when they experience it but it’s probably something that is incomparable to anything else.

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