Question of the Week #276

While walking in the park, you see a stranger and realize with absolute certainty that if you go over and introduce yourself, the two of you will fall in love more deeply than you even imagine possible. But you also know that in 6 months the person will be hit by a bus and killed. Would you go over to the person or leave? Assume you know that once you decide, you’ll forget what lies ahead.

I hate stuff like this. This is like the plot of a Nicholas Sparks novel. Two people meet and fall deeply in love and then it turns out someone has cancer or dies in childbirth or some other tragedy strikes.

I guess my question in response to the question is this… If I don’t introduce myself to this amazing woman, will she still get hit by a bus in six months? What if it’s our meeting that sets in motion the chain of events that will lead to her death? What if I keep on walking and she goes on to live a long and happy life? Because if that’s the case, I’d keep on walking, satisfied with the knowledge that she would be safe. Until I forget all about it, that is.

I think that’s why I’ve been so careful (for the most part) over the years to not allow myself to “fall in love” with anyone… the fear of loss. If I don’t experience those feelings of love and joy that are shared with another person, I don’t know what I’m missing. And I won’t have to deal with the pain that comes with inevitably losing them, whether that be due to their death or apathy toward the relationship.

I know… that’s a sad existence. But until someone comes along to convince me that the risk is worth the reward, it is my status quo.

But what about you? Would you go and introduce yourself to this person? Let me know what you think in the comments below!

5 thoughts on “Question of the Week #276

  1. I would go for it! I’ve been in love before and while it SUCKS to the very core of your being when its over, I honestly wouldn’t give the love away! PLUS in 6 months, you could make all the memories and a baby LOL then you’ll have a piece of that person forever and it wont be as sad.

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  2. I had a similar train of thought. If I don’t introduce myself, will the potential partner be kept from harm?
    I would not introduce myself. I think, for the safety of that person, I would settle for second best and keep the memory of what could have been as an inspiration for my art.

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  3. Yes, you raise an interesting point. I would not want to be the reason someone got hit by a bus. What if you write yourself a note before you make your decision, while you still know what’s going to happen, and put it in your pocket. Better yet, schedule a reminder in your phone for 5 months in the future that says “Beware of buses next month” or something like that?

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  4. This line: once you decide, you’ll forget what lies ahead, is why I would walk away. If you knew they would die, you can at least cherish the moments you have. If it comes as a surprise, it’s too hard to cope.

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