Question of the Week #192

When you are with your friends, do your interactions include much touching–for example, hugging, kissing, roughhousing, or rubbing backs? Would you like to have more of this?

No. And no.

At least… not as far as I’m concerned. I very much enjoy my personal space. I get uncomfortable when there are crowds full of people I don’t know very well. I get uncomfortable, most of the time, even when those I do know invade my bubble.

I went to college with a guy who would greet his friends in the dining hall by going around the table and giving everyone a quick shoulder rub. That was just his way of saying hi. I cringed every time I saw him coming because I knew exactly what was coming next.

I’m not very touchy-feely… I’m not much of a hugger. I mean, I like the occasional hug… but the occasion really needs to call for it. A friend I haven’t seen in a long time. A friend I’m telling good-bye, knowing I won’t see them for a long time. Family members who insist that hugs are the way to go.

Certainly, things would be different if I were in a relationship and had a significant other. But with friends, in groups, the answer’s just a flat out no.

What about you? Is physical touch a love language in which you’re fluent? Let me know down in the comments!

*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.

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3 thoughts on “Question of the Week #192

  1. I very much relate to you. I really do not enjoy hugs and I consciously avoid physical contact with others. There are certain people who I know are huggers who hug to say hello, so I try to avoid it as much as possible. I’m not sure why I’m like this to be honest.

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  2. When I’m with friends no I’m not a touchy person, like a hug when meeting or parting sure but not much other than that. But if I’m in a relationship that changes, I find myself being more touchy then. My love language definitely is quality time though.

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  3. I don’t mind simple hugging as a way of saying hello or goodbye, but only for people I’ve designated that privilege too. Friends, yes. I’ve chosen my friends and I like them and usually am fine hugging them, even the ones I see regularly. But random family members I see once a year or friends of friends I don’t really know that well? No. Stay away. I will shake your hand, if you must touch me. I think that because I’m a girl, people think we are touchy-feely people and love hugs more than men, but that’s not always the case, and I don’t see why I have to hug a relative but my brother is allowed to opt out freely.
    As for backrubbing and anything else, no thanks. It’s just weird unless you’re children.

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