Do you usually make a special effort to thank someone who does you a favor? How do you react when you aren’t thanked for going out of your way for someone?
Usually? Sure. Nothing wrong with saying thank you to someone. There’s nothing to it. But I don’t think that actually takes special effort. So maybe my answer should be no.
It’s not like I sit down and write out a thank you card to everyone who does me a favor. If there’s a special effort involved in whatever they helped me with, then yes, a special effort is warranted. That could mean a thank you card that they receive in the mail. It could mean a meal at a moderately priced restaurant that I’m willing to pay for. It could mean fabulous cash and prizes!
But it probably won’t mean fabulous cash and prizes.
As for not being thanked for doing something for someone else? I don’t care. When I’m helping someone, I’m not doing it for recognition. I’m not doing it to get a thank you or to get credit. I’ll help someone because I want to help someone. Because it’s the right thing to do. It could be argued that thanking someone is the right thing to do, but I’m not going to hold a grudge against someone for not thanking me.
Unless you assume I’m letting you into traffic under the guise of you actually cutting me off. In that case, I will expect a thank you. And you can expect an extremely sarcastic you’re welcome. And possibly some carefully chosen words that, if heard beyond the confines of my own car, could be construed as inappropriate.
I have road rage. I’m man enough to admit it.
What about you? Do you thank others? Are you offended when you unthanked?
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.