While on a trip to another city, your spouse or significant other meets and spends a night with an exciting stranger. Given that they will never meet again, and that you will not otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it? If roles were reversed, would you reveal what you had done?
In my experience (and I’m speaking in generalities, not in cases of adultery), the truth always comes out. For me, it would be better if she were up front with me about it from the start. I can’t promise that I would be forgiving right away. Maybe not ever. Or maybe I would be forgiving, I don’t know. But that’s not the question. Whether I’d forgive her or not, I’d want her to tell me.
And I would absolutely come out with the truth right away. She may not know about it, but I would. My conscience would literally murder me in my sleep if I kept that kind of thing to myself. Though, I can say with 100% certainty that I would never find myself in that situation because I’m pretty sure I have better self control and common sense than that.
What would you do?
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.