You have the chance to meet someone with whom you can have he most satisfying love imaginable–the stuff of dreams. Sadly, you know that in six months the person will die. Knowing the pain that would follow, would you still want to meet the person and fall in love? What if you knew your lover would not die, but instead betray you?
These are two very different questions…
First of all, am I allowed to assume that this amazing but doomed woman would feel the same about me as I, hypothetically, feel about her? If that’s the case, then I’d say yes. We should let the last six months of her life be as wonderful for her as possible, right?
As for the second question, absolutely not. I can deal with someone dying. It sucks, but, in my experience, grief is a little easier to work through than betrayal. Someone you love dies, it hurts, but you move on. Someone you love betrays you, then you have serious trust issues, possibly for life.
Maybe this is a more complicated version of the optimism/pessimism litmus test. What would you do? Embrace love for six months, knowing it would end?
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.