From Gregory Stock’s The Book of Questions: Do you dispense more criticism or praise?

That all depends on what you deserve! he says, smacking his palm with a wooden ruler…

To be honest, I’m not one to generally dish out criticism or praise. Blame the introversion if you wish. I normally do. I typically don’t speak unless spoken to. There are a few rare occasions where I will speak out if I am passionate enough about a certain topic or injustice or whatever… But to tell someone they’ve done a great job? I’m not always the best at sharing that opinion. And I definitely don’t want to tell someone they’ve done a lousy job.

I’m working on it. Because there are often times when a superior at work will look at something I’ve done and tell me what a great job I’ve done. It’s not necessary for me to hear those things, but it does feel good when they’re said. What’s stopping me from sharing that same sentiment with a co-worker who has poured his or her heart into some project and it genuinely shows in the finished product? How hard is it to say, “This looks great, thank you for putting in the time to make this look good!”

It isn’t hard. Yet I often find myself tongue-tied and I remain silent. Is it my place to tell someone they’ve done a good job? Maybe… But wouldn’t it sound better coming from that person’s direct supervisor instead?

What about you? Do you have any issues dispensing constructive criticism or praise when the occasion calls for it? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments!