Do you have any specific long-term goals? If so, which is the most important, how do you hope to reach it, and how do you think reaching it will enhance your life?
I’m going to admit something that I know doesn’t go over well with a lot of people. I’m not a very goal oriented individual. I’m sure that’s how employers, most of my friends, and probably society would like me to be… I’m just not. Never have been.
Are there things I want to do with my life? Sure. Do I sit down and make a list of steps I need to take to achieve those things I want to do with my life? Absolutely not. Maybe that’s why I haven’t accomplished the things I’d like to do. I just don’t think that’s how my personality is wired.
I’ve gone through the process, right? I’ve been in positions where the higher ups have asked for written goals for the next quarter or even year of the job. I’ve been asked to come up with the SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-based). And as creative as I can be when it comes to writing things down, I always have a hard time when it comes to setting goals.
Honestly, I don’t like being asked to come up with personal goals. And I resent it a little whenever an employer forces me to do it.
If I set goals for myself, I tend not to worry about the long-term. I’m too focused on the here and now. Right now, I know I’m miserable and need a change. Right now, I know that change requires a search for a new job. It requires me to make sure my resume is updated and is something potential employers will want to read. It requires me to apply for positions that are outside of my comfort zone. It requires me to ignore the voice in my head that tells me I’m not good enough for this position or that one. It requires me to push myself beyond my fear and anxiety and depression and just do what needs to be done. Because that’s what’s happening here and now.
I don’t want to look five… ten… twenty years down the road. I just want to know I’m going to be okay tomorrow morning when I wake up. Because I know the struggle tomorrow morning will be the same as the struggle was this morning. It will be the same struggle as yesterday morning. It will be a struggle just to throw the covers off and step out of bed and face the day.
That’s my goal.
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.