You discover that, because of a mix-up at the hospital, your wonderful 2-year-old is not actually yours. Would you want to switch kids and try to correct the mistake? Assume you’d have no further contact with the child you gave up.
No. If my wife and I have spent the last two years forming attachments and raising this child, we’ll keep him or her. That child may not genetically be our offspring, but they would be our son or daughter. Same with the one who is our biological child. Psychologically, it would do a lot more damage to both of those kids to yank them out of the homes they’ve known since birth just to correct a hospital error.
Having no further contact with our biological child or the family that’s raising him or her will be okay. Because they can go on to lead a normal life, just like the child we have will do. At least, as normal as can be in the world we live in. If the other set of parents want to be jerks about it, I’d fight for things to remain the same and bring in some experts to explain what sort of damage can be done by switching kids at this point. I mean, I know kids are taken away from parents at two years old in tragic circumstances sometimes… parents die and a kid has to then be raised by godparents or grandparents or whatever… But problems can and do arise for those kids down the line. Why risk that if it’s not necessary?
No, I’ll settle for suing the hospital for a crap ton of money on behalf of both families involved and we can all walk away millionaires with a possible Hallmark movie in the pipeline. For the record, I would like to be played by Jack Black. I think he could pull off a serious drama while throwing in a little comic relief from time to time.
What about you? Would you want to make the switch after raising the wrong child for two years? Let me know down in the comments!
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.