From Gregory Stock’s The Book of Questions: As a follow-up to last week’s question, if you could consciously control your sex drive, do you think your life would be better or worse than it is now? If you had to permanently double or halve your partner’s appetite for sex, which would you pick?

I have to confess, I don’t have particularly strong feelings either way on this one. I can see the upsides and downsides to both options. On one hand, being able to dial your horniness up or down at will could certainly come in handy – no more awkward arousal at inopportune moments! Eighth-grade Aaron would have appreciated that. You could sync up your sex schedule with your partner’s. Focus fully on work or other pursuits without distraction when needed.

On the other hand, I wonder if having that much control would make sex feel less exciting, less urgent, and primal. Part of the thrill is in the uncontrollable, unpredictable nature of desire. It overtakes you and consumes you. It makes you do crazy, impulsive, deliciously ill-advised things sometimes. Would we lose that if it was simply a knob we could adjust?

As for doubling or halving a partner’s appetite – woo boy, that’s opening a real can of worms! I suppose it depends on whether you’re well-matched to start with. Dramatically changing something so personal could really throw things out of whack in a relationship. Although I’m sure some folks stuck in dead bedrooms are thinking “Sign me up for that double libido option!”

Ultimately, I suspect most people like myself would choose to keep things as they are, au naturale, unpredictable sex drives and all. There’s something to be said for working with the hand (and hormones) you’re dealt. But hey, I’m just one opinion. Maybe I’m missing out on the secret to ultimate sexual optimization and satisfaction!

What do you think, dear readers? Would you control your sex drive if you could? Max out your mate’s mojo or cut it in half? Let’s heat up the comment section with your hot takes! And don’t worry, this is a judgment-free zone – keep it spicy but respectful!