No. It’s not taking a crappy Christmas sweater back to Wal-Mart because it’s a bad fit. You don’t just return a kid. If you’ve raised this child for the first year of his or her life, then you (I would hope) have invested a significant amount of time making sure that he or she is developing appropriately, both physically and psychologically. And, psychologically speaking, a lot of stuff happens in that first year. There are so many milestones that a parent experiences with their child in the first 12 months. Personally, I’d want to see it through for the next 17 years as the kid makes his or her way into adulthood.
I’m not saying I wouldn’t want to play some part in my biological child’s life. I’m sure the other parents would want to know how their child is being raised as well. An ideal situation would be for the families to get to know each other, even let the kids become friends if that’s a possibility. Eventually, the parents should agree upon an appropriate time and place to tell their children the truth about being switched at birth. Drama will ensue, and it’s possible you’ll get your own show on ABC Family. But I know it’s not an ideal world and drama will ensue no matter what. But I would hope that all parties involved would do what is best for the children, not what’s best for the parents.
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.