Have you ever hated anyone? If so, why and for how long?
May I quote Will Smith?
Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do ’cause hate in your heart will consume you too. -Just the Two of Us
I don’t believe that I’ve ever actually hated anyone.
Let me clarify. I know for a fact that I’ve told people I hate them or shouted it when it couldn’t be heard before. And any time that has happened, it’s been done in the heat of anger or extreme frustration. When you’re angry and saying whatever enters your mind, you’re really not making a conscious decision to feel what you’re really feeling. So, while I have said that I hated someone before, I’ve never actually felt a true hatred toward anyone. At least, I don’t think so.
Some people may read what I’ve just written and try to convince me that when I say something in the heat of anger, that’s the real honesty of my heart coming to the surface. Maybe they’re right. Maybe I just don’t want to admit to myself I’ve ever truly hated anyone before. Hate can be such a strong word.
But so is love. And we throw the two around all the time as if they don’t mean anything. These two feelings are at opposite ends of the emotional spectrum and they can be unnerving and unstable and unpredictable. Yet they’re equal in the power that they can hold over people’s hearts and minds. We look at the word hate and very easily see what negative things have been done in its wake. But think about all of the horrible things that have been done in the name of love.
Sure, love has been the basis for a lot of powerful good in the world, there’s no way to deny that. But is it possible to say the same thing about hate? Could it be that it’s a Yin-Yang kind of thing? You’ve got the light side with a little bit of darkness and you’ve got the dark side with that little bit of light.
Sorry… rambled a bit. No, I don’t think I’ve ever truly hated anyone for any length of time. Argue with me on that if you must. But I’m more interested to hear everyone’s take on the relationship between love and hate. Leave me some comments.
*The Question of the Week can be found in The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.